Why are there gay guys women have buttholes too
I’vewrittenaboutmy first time before. It wasn’t great. But it significantly shaped how I came to understand my sexuality. Because what I didn’t realize at the tender age of nineteen was that the hazy politics of consent were central to the awkwardness of my sexual youth. This didn’t look appreciate violence. I wasn’t held down. That’s not my story. Instead, it resembles feelings of embarrassment and shame at declaring, “no”.
It’s uncomfortable to acknowledge that in the spreadsheet of my spread sheets lie down a few entries where I rationally came to the decision that it was less uncomfortable just to have sex.
Our connection to sex as homosexual men is interesting. Direct people don’t need to prove their sexuality, it’s default, it’s assumed. Our sexuality, however, relies on expression and behavior. After my first time I wasn’t sexual for more than a year. It didn’t go unnoticed. Someone slurred, “are you asexual?” at a college party. My legitimacy as a gay man, questioned. Because to be sexually inactive - or perhaps just cautious - somehow de-legitimizes an identity to those seeking proof and validation of gay identity. And just as we were taught to constantly establish our masculini
DEAR READERS: I’m off this week. To tide all of your warm and/or kinky and/or sore asses over, here’s a column I wrote 15 years ago. Some newer readers might’ve missed this column when it originally appeared—some of you who were still in grade institution, diapers, or amniotic sacs back in 1998—so I’m rerunning it now because I still receive questions about “gerbiling” on a daily basis.
QWe were having a little office debate about “gerbiling.” How does it work? Do all same-sex attracted men do this? Does Richard Gere? Does the animal get shoved up the anus with a toilet sheet roll only to suffocate seconds later? Is it the scratching or the act of killing an animal that gets people off? Why? Can’t this cause serious damage? What gives? —Curious Coworkers
AEvery afternoon, my mail contains at least three questions about “gerbiling.” In the eight years I’ve been writing this column, I have never addressed the gerbil issue, but now, this week and this week only, I am breaking my silence. Clip and save this column, for I will never talk about gerbils again. Ahem. To begin, I would like to make a controversial statement:
I have ne
Anal Sex: Why Does It Hurt?
by Allison Danish, MPH
Anal sex! It’s happening aaaall around us. And has probably been happening since the dawn of buttholes—just look at this pottery from Ancient Greece. While it’s grown more evident in popular tradition in the past few decades, and potentially more people are having anal sex than they have in centuries, we don’t chat about it that much. And what we really don’t discuss is pain with anal sex—anodyspareunia. It’s a silent but(t) oftentimes expected outcome of having anal—so… let’s speak about it! What's the science behind why it happens? How common is it? And what can we accomplish about it?
Let’s unearth in.
Who’s having anal sex?
There’s a usual misconception that anal sex only happens between cis homosexual men (and sex-starved teenagers, but that’s a different conversation).
In truths, 35.9% of cis women and 42.3% of cis men have had anal intercourse with other-sex partners (Herbenick 2015). And a massive European study and a small North American survey contain estimated that about 85% of cis men who hold sex with men (MSM) have had anal sex with a same-sex spouse in the past year (EMIS 2011, Bespoke Surgical 2018).
Frustratingly, we’ve yet
A little while ago, I hooked up with someone I hadn’t seen in over five years. When we’d last met, I was still wet behind the ears when it came to pleasing a man, so we cute much made out and jumped directly into anal.
But this time, I was ready.
After the usual making out and other vanilla stuff, we moved on to foreplay. I flipped him over and leisurely worked my way down. But he didn’t predict what came next. In no time, my tackle was dug deep between his buttcheeks, rimming his anus to glory. “When did you pick that up?” he asked between bewildered moans. “Well, I’ve been busy learning,” I said shamelessly.
I love eating ass. If I was on death row, and they asked me what my last meal favor would be, I’d utter a nice plump ass to make my last moments tolerable.
It wasn’t always this way, but my initial apprehension thankfully paved the way for curiosity. After watching burly men eat each other’s hairy butts out in porn, I started practising it with consenting partners. Over time, I have mastered the art of anilingus.
And because we know most gay men are already adept at being and eating assholes, this period around, I’d like to help my straight brethren out. As t
Meet Your Prostate!
I sure can, and I’m glad you asked.
Know what? Some gay (A man who is attracted to other men, or a person of any sex or gender who is sexually and emotionally attracted to people of the same or a similar sex or gender. Often used alongside lesbian.) men do NOT favor having any sort of anal sex (Sexual outing involving the anus. Anal sex may include stimulation with fingers, the mouth, a penis, sex toys, or other objects or body parts.). Enjoyment of anal sex does not define or determine homosexuality, and lack of enjoyment of anal sex does not define or judge heterosexuality. So, a guy can be gay and yet not be all that interested in or even enjoy anal act . You can also be gay without engaging in anal sex: being male lover is about being attracted to the same-sex (Different things people choose to do to actively convey or enact sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. ), not about having a certain caring of sex, so even a gay guy who never has sex with anyone is still queer , just like a hetero person who has never had sex can still know they’re heterosexual (Someone who is only or mostly emotionally and sexuall