Gay competition
Competition in Same-Sex Couples
Have you ever noticed how much contest there is in same sex couples? It’s just beneath the surface, and something I see a lot as a psychotherapist to the San Diego LGBT community.
It seems easier for opposite sex couples to not compete. Perhaps it’s because they stare at their significant other across the breakfast table and that person looks so different from them that they don’t feel what I call, that “testosterone grunt”in gay couples.
Even without the testosterone factor, competition often rears its hideous head in many lesbian couples as well. What’s a healthy same-sex couple to do when we find ourselves thinking some version of: “You reflect you can create more money than me?” or “Oh really, you reflect you do (fill in the blank) better than I do? Watch this.”
Why do we rival anyway? What drives us? What is the essence of competition and is it stronger in same-sex couples?
I love this definition of competition: “a rivalry between two or more persons for an protest desired in usual, usually resulting in a victor and a loser but not necessarily involving the destruction of the latter”.
Isn’t that great? Not necessarily involving the destructi
Competition
Mr Gay Europe has come a distant way since two friends had a couple of beers – and maybe some margaritas – in the fall of 2004 and came up with this insane idea to arrange Mr Gay Europe – like, how decadent was it feasible to be? Let’s just say it has been an interesting, unrestrained , crazy, frustrating, eye-opening, challenging happy and giving time.
Honestly, the first year the competition was just an excuse to throw a party. The second year we started to see the shape of the future of Mr Same-sex attracted Europe. We were happy that the challenge grew more and more into a human rights event, and we are proud of all the brave and proud contestants we’ve had through the years. All along the goal has been to package the fight for human and gay rights with a positive, happy and entertaining event.
If there is one thing we don’t want to be, is a beauty pageant where body trumps brains, and muscles are more important than man to guy relationships, networking and friendship, and our motto: unity through diversity.
Mr Gay Europe is the authentic Mr Gay match, though others have tried to copy us and even tried to change us, we are still faithful to our roots, where friendship, prid
It is an established proof that gay men make less than other men and lesbian women receive more than other women. In this paper we study whether differences in competitive preferences, which own emerged as a likely determinant of labour market differences between men and women, can provide a plausible explanation. We behavior an experiment on a Dutch online survey panel to measure the competitiveness of gay, lesbian and straight panel members. For differences in competitiveness to partially explain sexual orientation differences in earnings, male lover men would need to be less competitive than other men and womxn loving womxn women more competitive than other women. Our findings confirm this competitiveness hypothesis for men, but not for women. Gay men compete less than other men, while lesbian women compete as much as other women. Linking our experimental measure to survey data, we show that competitiveness is a significant predictor of earnings. Differences in competitiveness can account for a significant portion of the gay earnings penalty, but cannot define the lesbian premium.